Frequently Asked Questions
What is a transformational memoir?
Dear Daughter is more than a personal story. It is a transformational memoir, a genre rooted in truth telling, emotional depth, and personal awakening. These are narratives that do not simply revisit the past. They reveal how the writer grew, healed, or came home to themselves through it. This kind of storytelling invites readers to reflect on their own lives, offering insight, resonance, and the possibility of lasting change. Even our darkest chapters can become a source of light, not only for ourselves but for those who recognize their own truth in the pages.
For many, writing or reading a transformational story offers:
Clarity
To make sense of how their life events and experiences are connected, and to identify the personal and generational patterns that have shaped their choices, relationships, and sense of self
Self honoring
To stop minimizing their own experiences
Voice
To speak a truth they have been holding back for decades
Emotional integration
To finally understand what they have been through
Closure
Not just mentally, but soul deep
Meaning
To find purpose in their pain
Legacy
To leave something behind that tells the real story
Who is this book really for and why does it matter?
This book is for anyone who has lived through trauma, whether it came from a single life altering event or from years of feeling unseen, unsafe, or unheard. While PTSD often stems from something sudden or extreme, complex PTSD (C-PTSD) develops through repeated experiences that quietly shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world. It often begins in childhood, especially during the first seven years when the foundation for trust, safety, and self worth is still forming. But it can also take root later in adulthood through patterns of betrayal, neglect, or emotional harm.
Dear Daughter gives voice to the parts of our story that were never allowed to be spoken. It is for people who appear fine on the outside but feel disconnected or overwhelmed on the inside. For those who carry the weight of what they could not say or safely feel at the time. And it matters because healing is not just personal. It affects how we love, how we parent, how we lead, and how we show up in the world. As the Dalai Lama said, “World peace begins with inner peace.” When even one person begins to heal, they begin to break cycles. That healing ripples outward into relationships, into communities, and into future generations.
Why did I create Three Hummingbirds Publishing?
I started Three Hummingbirds Publishing because I no longer wanted to wait for permission to share my story. I also wanted the creative freedom to tell it in my own way, without having to fit someone else’s formula or expectations. I needed a space where real, honest stories could exist without being filtered or watered down—stories rooted in lived experience that carry both pain and hope. Over time, I came to see that traditional publishing is not always the right home for stories like mine—personal, layered, and centered on healing. I wanted to build a space where truth could lead the way. A space where lived experience is honored and where the heart of the story matters just as much as the craft.
I chose the name Three Hummingbirds because it holds both personal meaning and symbolic truth. The name came to me during a time of deep reflection. I was thinking about transformation, resilience, and the kind of beauty that often goes unnoticed unless you are fully present. Hummingbirds have always reminded me of the strength that lives in something small and seemingly delicate. They are remarkably resilient, able to travel thousands of miles, yet they move with ease, grace, and lightness. To me, they are also a symbol of hope—a reminder that even after long journeys or difficult seasons, there is still beauty, still joy, still something worth returning to. : )